12:25: All Is Love Who do you love unconditionally? Who loves you unconditionally? Who do you love despite their flaws? All is love. (#)
Peanut. But she’s pretty simple.
I’ve observed in myself that a lot of things that would have really bothered me just a few years ago I find amusing or totally not bothersome now. Which is not at all to say that Missy does a bunch of irksome things that no longer irk me. She doesn’t. Whatever combo of me maturing and our relationship being what it is means I’m often delighted by her (still!), I can depend on her, I can be completely honest with her, I trust her, and she makes me want to be all those same things for her.
12/24: Try What is one thing (activity, food, career, event, travel, etc.) that you’d like to try in 2012? Why haven’t you tried it yet? What makes 2012 the year to try it? (#)
A 30-day hot yoga challenge.
I haven’t yet just out of fear. I’m afraid I won’t physically be able to handle it. I’m afraid I won’t be able to make time. I’m afraid I’ll choose not to make time and then be disappointed in myself.
What I wanted was to do it “officially” by declaring my intention at a single studio, doing all 30 classes at that one studio, and having people ooh/ahh over my challenge. Which is totally the wrong reason to do it. But support is nice, too. The kicker is the less convenient of the two studios I go to is the more supportive environment.
As soon as I mentioned to a couple people at the less-convenient more-supportive studio that I was thinking about doing it, the advice flowed in. The enthusiasm was contagious! They utterly believe I can do it and they said so, so I began to really believe I could do it. In fact, I asked one woman as she was heading out after class one day and she literally dropped her bags, sat down on the floor with me, and proceeded to talk for five minutes straight about it. I mentioned this to Missy and she agreed to trek out there on the weekend with me.
I put it out there and nothing but positive signs came back.
So here we go.
12/23: Today Is All You Have It’s true, today is all you have, so why not make the most of it? Describe your perfect day, one that you’ve had this year or one that you’d like to have next year. What makes it perfect for you? (#)
My perfect day involves morning coffee, time outside in brilliant weather, Peanut doing something cute, a heartfelt conversation with Missy, delicious food, yoga, a meaningful connection with a non-Missy friend, and perhaps a tiny breakthrough or revelation of some sort.
I get most of these things most days anyway.
12/22: Identify the Problem Today’s prompt is borrowed from Gretchen Rubin’s Happiness Project.
Identify the problem. That is, when you’re annoyed, angered, or frustrated, ask yourself, “What exactly is the problem here?”
Today, take a few minutes to ponder that one little, nagging issue that, if solved or eliminated, would make your life better. Perhaps, getting up five minutes earlier would make your life easier. Maybe smiling at that one coworker that drives you crazy would ease the tension. What small change in your life would or could make a big difference? (#)
A daily meditation practice.
I’ve seen it have a positive impact on enough people to believe in the benefits. Despite talking about it for a good *mumble* years now, I haven’t made it happen. It won’t necessarily fix any particular problems, but it sure can make a whole lot of things – big and small – better. Can’t go wrong.
12/21: Embrace What guilty pleasure have you embraced this year? What have you just accepted as something you enjoy and stopped denying it? What do you enjoy that would surprise people that know you? If you’re still fighting your guilty pleasure, tell us what it is. Come clean. You’ll feel a lot better. (#)
My eating habits are significantly improved from what they used to be, say, ten years ago. That said, I’ve been told what kinds of food I should really avoid and I don’t always do a great job making choices accordingly. I still eat too much wheat and corn. I still sometimes choose dairy. I still eat more fruit and less veggies than I should.
But we shop the fancy grocery store and the co-op. We shop the perimeter. I buy organic produce. I buy humanely raised meat. We’ve shifted from protein/veggie/starch dinners to protein/veggie/veggie dinners. When we eat at home, we almost always have salad.
But I don’t feel badly about eating out for lunch every day. (I might start to on a cost basis, but not on a food quality basis.) I’ve perfectly honed my Chipotle ordering. I eat a lot of grocery store sushi. I order sandwiches at my favorite deli without cheese and with fruit on the side instead of chips or pasta salad.
In fact I was just saying to Missy that we don’t go out and have fancy dinner often enough. There are plenty of fantastic places to have a really nice dinner in Minneapolis and we just don’t do that very often.
My credit card billing period just ended, so I reviewed the statement. Aside from a few airline charges and periodic gas station visits, the vast majority of our charges are food. We go to the grocery store pretty much every other day.
So, yeah, I like to eat.