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reverb10 – December 21 – Future self

December 21 Future self.
Imagine yourself five years from now. What advice would you give your current self for the year ahead? (Bonus: Write a note to yourself 10 years ago. What would you tell your younger self?)

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My 2015 self is going to tell my 2011 self to believe in yourself, leverage your friends, try something (anything) new to get your next job/biz going, get your LLC going dammit, embrace change because there’s gonna be a lot of it, and trust your wife. Always trust your wife.

My 2010 self is going to tell my 2000 self to PAY OFF YOUR CREDIT CARD DEBT AND SAVE UP GOTDAMMIT before you go blowing that money from your first real job. A Jeep Grand Cherokee isn’t the wisest choice of car, as much as you’re gonna love driving it. Go ahead and take that severance package and blow it on that road trip, but have a plan for afterward, fer chrissake. And don’t let anyone tell you that who you are is not good enough. Do you.

For the month of December, I’m participating in a project called #reverb10. You can read the creation story yourself; the short version is that it’s a month-long exercise in reflecting on the year and manifesting what you want for next year. There’s a daily prompt to which you respond as you see fit. View all my #reverb10 posts.

reverb10 – December 3 – Moment

December 3 Moment.
Pick one moment during which you felt most alive this year. Describe it in vivid detail (texture, smells, voices, noises, colors).

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This is easy. THE moment of the year was my wedding. All 30 or so minutes of it. (It didn’t seem like it was gonna be that long…)

It is rare that I’m fully present in an experience for an extended period of time. Whether that’s good or bad is a conversation for another day, but that’s the fact of the matter. Granted, performing in your own wedding does require more focus than simply observing. Point being, my complete attention to the whole thing is remarkable. Which is a good thing, considering it was my wedding.

Here’s what I think of when I remember that day:

Love clear in Missy’s eyes and in her smile. The palpable love in the air from our friends and family. Marble. Our red and blue dresses in contrast with all that marble. Constantly admiring the shimmer in those dresses. Smiles. Sore cheeks from all that smiling. Tears. Laughter. Singing happy birthday to a bunch of people, Twin Cities Women’s Choir-style. Joy. Hugs. Squeals upon greeting out-of-town, rarely seen friends. One really sweet kiss from Missy at the end of the ceremony. The smell of my own sweat (I was nervous!). The smell of made-to-order omelets. The voices of trusted friends and family reading for our ceremony. Feeling completely comfortable in that dress. The smoky tones of Chastity Brown, singing Peter Himmelman’s “Cross That Bridge” (our song) which makes me cry every time I hear it. The sight of my family, visiting from Michigan, sitting at their tables.

So many tiny moments of bliss, all put together, all coming together, because I’m totally in love with a woman who’s totally in love with me, and we have friends and family who totally love us. Easily one of the most powerful experiences of my life.

For the month of December, I’m participating in a project called #reverb10. You can read the creation story yourself; the short version is that it’s a month-long exercise in reflecting on the year and manifesting what you want for next year. There’s a daily prompt to which you respond as you see fit. View all my #reverb10 posts.