Monthly Archives: August 2009

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Gay Couples Law Blog: New Developments in Family Law and Estate Planning for Same Sex Couples

From publisher Gideon Alper:

There’s a lot of information out there on family law and estate planning. But there isn’t that much on how those laws apply to the unique needs of same sex couples. When I realized how little information is available that focuses on gay couples, I knew that I wanted to fill in that gap.

Same sex couples have these unique needs because, in most of the country, they can’t get married. Even in states where they can, their marriage still lacks federal recognition. As a result, gay couples wanting to simply take care of each instead face a body of law that is difficult to understand and use. Until gay marriage is recognized everywhere, same sex couples will have to deal with the law as it is. I want to help them to do just that.

I hope the information here will help gay couples protect their families and relationships, whether they are adopting, trying to keep custody of their children, minimizing their taxes, or figuring out how to set up their domestic partnerships.

Wedding Date: March 27, 2010

Last weekend, Missy and I settled on a wedding date.

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March 27 is our existing anniversary date, and it so happens it falls on a Saturday next year. We’re definitely ready to take this step, so we figured there’s no real reason to wait any longer.

We’ve gotten numerous variations on the question: “Where are you getting legally married?” We’re not. Not right now. Minnesota doesn’t recognize same-sex unions legally performed in other states, so there’s no legal benefit to us in doing that right now. We’re not planning on making any special trips to get legally married somewhere, but if we happen to find ourselves in one of those states where we could, it might happen.

The fact that we (and probably so many other gay couples) get this question so much is clearly indicative of the way church and state have become intertwined on this issue. It’s hard to mentally separate a wedding from the change in legal status that comes with it.

But we feel it’s important to stand up in front of our families and our friends and share with them our commitment to each other. We could proceed with our life plans without doing this. Maybe wait until it’s legal in Minnesota. But the fact is we’ve made the commitment, so why would we wait to celebrate it?

Other than the date, we’ve decided on nothing. When I have answers for you on colors, registries, etc., I’ll let you know (because y’all have been asking about that, too). We’re working on save-the-dates and a venue.

This is all grown up and stuff.

I’m gonna marry my girl! Squee!

Health Progress Report: Six Weeks Later

It’s been six weeks since I made my first visit to Byron and started bikram yoga. I’ve noticed enough changes that I thought it deemed a follow-up post.

I made a second visit to Byron after a month. I sat in my car and dictated everything right after my appointment so I wouldn’t forget it.

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The gist of it is:

  • My hips are still janky.
  • First month’s detox was a partial success. My liver still needs work.
  • He talked about the effect that eating too many carbs has on various internal organs, the mechanisms, and the chronic conditions they induce.
  • I have a whole new set of enzymes to take. Some are working on my liver specifically, some are working on regulating my blood sugar.

So I’m still working on how to cut back on the grains. It’s a similar concept to going vegan. You can’t just substitute fake versions of stuff you used to eat. You need to learn to eat entirely different stuff. I did clarify for myself that gluten-free products are not necessarily lower in carbs. But the level of sensitivity to various grains is different, too. Safe bets to stay away from are wheat, corn, and oats. Ironically, Byron pointed out that the amounts of corn present in all these highly-processed foods (as corn syrup) are not enough to trigger my response.

We’ve (okay Missy has) worked the quinoa into our diets pretty well. It’s really versatile. It’s been a lifesaver as a snack/dinner that is satisfying but not hugely filling as we’ve been eating on the go a lot having been pretty busy, especially during the Fringe Festival. I’ve been trying to eat more fruit. I know fruit has plenty of carbs, but I like to think that they’re good carbs.

The change I made over the last week was to make breakfast before leaving the house. Turkey sausage, an egg, and some cantaloupe. Surprisingly, I had no problems eating it. Usually I’m not at all ready to eat that soon after getting up. It’s held me until lunch just fine, despite the fact that I end up eating one to two hours earlier than I have been.

I’ve done a pretty good job of avoiding cheese, milk, and ice cream. Most sandwiches taste just the same without the cheese. I have successfully kept myself, despite numerous opportunities and strong hankerings, from visiting my favorite pizza joint. I have noticed a significant reduction in my general level of — TMI — gassiness. I have noticed I’m less phlegm-y as well.

I’ve consistently made it to three to four yoga classes per week. I progressed from being worried that going two days in a row was too much to worrying that two days between classes is way too long. Every single day of yoga is different. No two classes are alike. Like today, I just could not keep my balance through a few poses that I usually can stay in position for (if not with perfect form). So that keeps it interesting. I still get a little nervous before each class for some reason, but that usually all goes away by the time I start sweating.

Speaking of sweating, I normally loathe and detest humidity and sweating without being able to get dry. In the yoga room, I love it. It’s got a lot to do with not having clothes sticking to you, but I also love the cleansing feeling that I get from it, like I’m rinsing myself from the inside out.

My back is noticeably stronger. Like, I have visible lower back muscles that I’ve never had before. I’m definitely more attentive to my posture while sitting. In fact, I find I can’t quite get comfortable in chairs I used to enjoy sitting in. It’s sometimes more comfortable to sit straight up, and I can do that for a lot longer. My quads are more defined as well. I can tell my hamstrings are gradually getting more flexible. I think I’ve lost a couple pounds.

Today I went ahead and signed up for the recurring monthly unlimited package at Bikram Yoga Chanhassen, affectionately known as BYC, which is the nearest studio to home and work. That locks me in for six months and also comes with a free membership to the studio (good for discounts on swag, events, and partner services like acupuncture and thai massage). They have such a great rate on this package, I couldn’t not sign up for it. It’ll take an average of three classes per week to break even vs the next cheapest package and it’ll work out to almost half off the single-class price.

So the changes I’ve seen have been subtle, but noticeable enough to keep me motivated. I still need to work on this diet thing. The next biggest challenge will be keeping up with the yoga schedule as I incorporate the demands of choir, which starts up again in September. I get more done when I have more to do, right?

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SinglePayerCentral.com

“Single Payer Publicly Funded Universal Healthcare Information & Resource Center”

Single payer health insurance is a system by which the health care expenditures of an entire population are paid for through one source.

Distinctly different from socialized medicine (where the government owns and operates health care facilities) a “single payer system” is simply a financing mechanism. The government collects and allocates money for health care but has little to no involvement in the actual delivery of services. Care is provided privately at hospitals and clinics but paid for publicly.

There’s a ton of information in there, especially with regard to actual proposed legislation.

(I couldn’t find anything resembling an “About” page.)