I live in an apartment building. It’s impossible not to hear others’ presence through the walls. That’s fine. Especially since we all have hardwood floors. Given the sturdy construction of the 1920s, it’s probably not nearly as bad in here as could be.
So if you’re watching a movie in which lots of things get blown up, or you really need to practice your guitar with the amp, or your child is having a temper tantrum, I’m not surprised. I do, however, have the right to address it with you if it’s really bothering me. Sometimes I’m inspired to rock out to my new favorite song, or I’m trying to hear Wait Wait from the other room. If that bothers you, you have the right to address it with me, too.
Last Saturday evening I was hearing my upstairs neighbor’s bass over the sound of my own iPod playing on my stereo. When I shut my music off, I could hear his music clearly enough to name the song had I known what the song was in the first place. So I went upstairs and rang his doorbell. I could even more clearly hear his music from outside his door.
Dude opens the door and I politely say, “Hey, I live downstairs and I’m getting a lot of your bass right now. Would you mind turning it down just a little?” He pauses a second, and then says, “Are you the one with the surround sound? I thought you liked it loud.”
What?
I said to him that I was just asking him to turn it down a little and he could choose to do so or not. Additionally, I would hope and expect that if he had a problem with the volume from my apartment that he would say so, because how could I know that it was disturbing him if he never said anything?
He lamely repeated his “I thought you liked it loud” line a couple times and then pointed out that it was 8:00 on a Saturday night. Dude, this is an apartment building, not a dorm. I repeated my “comply or not, talk to me if I’m bothering you” bit and then walked away from him.
I get it if the guy was a little annoyed, but he lost all credibility with his lame ass rejoinder and inability to actually respond to what I was saying.
He did turn it down, though.





